Why Does Jealousy Happen In A Relationship?

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A relationship has never been a smooth sailing boat out in the open sea. Lots of instances and scenarios, expected or not, crop up and will eventually shake the very foundation of your relationship. Jealousy is one of them; and if left unchecked, it might ruin the relationship faster than you think.

Why Does Jealousy Happen In A Relationship?

Jealousy In A Relationship

What is jealousy?

Jealous is an act which reflects your emotions, thoughts and feeling when you get insecure over someone or something that you view as a rival in your relationship. This might refer to colleagues at work, friends or even past relationships of your partner that suddenly appeared out of nowhere.

This is often attributed to the paranoia that our partner is seeing someone else, or someone is trying to grab your partner’s attention away from you. Jealousy has been a common reason why heated arguments and petty fights occur in a relationship. According to studies, a majority of relationship blame jealousy as their reason for having split up with their partners. Keeping this in mind could possible change your mind on what these paranoia over your partner can do in your hard-earned relationship.

Why get jealous?

Most often, jealousy happen in a relation due to the lack of trust that you have for each other. When you don’t trust your partner’s commitment, you will automatically feel jealous when they are with someone, either at work or personal. We automatically assume that our partner is up to no good, or having affair behind our backs.

Another reason why we get jealous is when our partner spends so much time on other things, like business or friends, rather than with you. We usually feel insecure over the fact that our partners are enjoying having fun outside or at work, than with your company. Even though this reason can be very silly to become jealous, it is still prevalent among couples.

Due to misunderstanding

Honestly, jealousy usually rears it ugly head when there are misunderstanding between partners. We often feel frustrated when we don’t know what our partners are doing when their not with our company; we often jump to conclusions and create scenarios in our mind which often leads us to wrong decisions and actions that might affect the relationship.

Such wrong decisions including pressuring our partner by piling up restrictions that will anger them since you are being unreasonable. They might also misunderstand you since you suddenly changed without knowing why.

Heading it off before it starts

When you feel jealous over something, make sure that you immediately open it up with your partner to clarify things. It’s best to keep the conversation open and immediately voice out why you are having such anxiety over actions. If he or she knows why you are feeling jealous then they can definitely do something about it to lessen your emotional burden and head off possible arguments in the future.

Understanding what jealousy really is and why it happens in a relationship is the best way to arm yourself to further protect the harmony of your life with your partner.

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Christina Young (The Healing Heart Coach) is a passionate, loving coach who helps women through the pain of relationship challenges, divorce and life after divorce. Christina is an author of “A Woman’s Guide to Forgiving Infidelity” and “Love is a Rollercoaster” Christina is called on by the media for advice and has been on radio in the UK and USA and interviewed on TV. Having gone through her own personal relationship challenge she understands exactly how painful it can be. Christina knows how life can be when you come from a place of love and forgiveness. Christina is also helping people live a healthy life through the Thrive Experience.