When Paranoia Is All That is Left In Your Relationship
Most people say that a good and stable relationship is greatly founded on trust. So, what happens if trust gets broken and shattered into tiny little pieces? Does the relationship fall back and suffer? Does it lead to serious consequences up to the point of breaking up?
Losing the trust and confidence in a relationship is an unfortunate thing to happen because it can lead to emotional stress and psychological anguish. If you are in a relationship that is not based on trust but paranoia, you should continue reading this article to help you know how to deal with your relationship.
The Source Of Paranoia
More often than not, the feeling of being paranoid does not naturally appear on the surface. For sure, there are instigating factors that make a person feel paranoid about the relationship. The primary reason for someone to feel paranoid is when infidelity and cheating comes to the scene.
It really hurts to be cheated on by your partner, especially if you are very faithful and loyal to him. Not only is it very insulting to the ego of a person, it also disturbs the self-confidence and self-concept of a person because it can lead to ideas such as being not good enough and not being loved. Feeling worthless and unloved is perhaps the most depressing feeling that a person may encounter in a relationship. Experiencing those awful feelings may lead to paranoia especially if the person who got cheated on by his or her partner decides to stay in the relationship.
Although being able to forgive and forget the infidelity of ones partner may seem to be a good and noble thing to do, people must understand that deep inside individuals who got cheated on is a feeling of great doubt and suspicion. There is always that notion that their partner may tend to cheat on them again because there is an underlying idea that if their partner were able to do it to them once, they can most probably do it again.
Being paranoid is not a good thing to be because it is not psychologically healthy. Paranoia is like a bunch of termites slowly nibbling on a rickety piece of wood. The disarming effect of paranoia is not limited to the person feeling it; the people who surround a paranoid person also become affected because paranoid people tend to be overly suspicious about almost everything that is happening. Too much rationalization and frequent jumping to conclusions are the most common characteristics of paranoid people.
If you have been cheated on by your partner once in your relationship, do not force yourself to quickly forgive and forget. Savour the moment of pain and try to reflect about the situation. As much as possible, don’t make big decisions during your painful moments because you might regret your decision in the end. Try to think things over and weigh the situation so that an appropriate decision may be reached.
Assess yourself and your capability to forgive, forget and trust again. If you think that you are the type of person who can easily forget the pain of being cheated on, don’t immediately say yes to the partner who has cheated on you of he or she asks for a second chance. You see, being able to forget and forgive the person who ha cheated on you does not necessarily mean that there will be no room for paranoia in the near future.
Try to take spend some time alone and ask yourself if I give this person a second chance, will I feel stable and happy being with him/her knowing that he/she had the guts to cheat on me?î. If you can confidently answer yes, then go ahead and give that person a second chance. But if there are some doubts and hesitation in your mind, it’s best that you don’t quickly give another chance because you will just end up having a miserable and paranoid relationship.
Learn To Let Go
Breaking up with someone is not an easy thing to do; you will really be on an emotional rollercoaster for a few weeks or so. Even so, you must remember that no matter how much pain you are feeling, there will definitely come a time when you can take a deep breath and say I’m Ok. Don’t try to ignore the pain that you are feeling; acknowledge it because you are not a superhero. You are just a human being. But of course, in the end, think of what’s best for yourself, and learn to let go.
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