Sticking to your Commitments! What Does Commitment Mean?
Ever since you were a kid, you were already exposed to things such as promises “I promise to bring you a toy when I get home,” says your dad. Or “I promise I’ll be home for your piano recital,” says your mom. But it is not just the adults who know how to make promises. Kids as early as the age of four already know how to make promises and commitments. A very good example of this would be the “pinky promise” for the girls and “spit on the hands and shake” for the boys. These are acts that signify that the promise has been accepted and sealed.
As kids, being able to fulfill a promise is one of the priorities. But as the time passes by and they grow older, promises are given nonchalantly and sometimes used as a means to an end without even having the intention of fulfilling it. This is also the problem of people when they commit themselves to a romantic relationship.
In a romantic relationship, promises and commitments are very important. The fact that being in a relationship is a commitment in itself is one proof of this. But often times, couples in a romantic relationship take this for granted. They sometimes give their word and commit to some things without even thinking whether they would be able to fulfil them or not. They do not seem to know that sticking to commitments is very important in a relationship.
Sticking To Commitments Makes Your Partner Feel Good
Has anyone made a commitment with you but he, she, or they did not stick to it? Has anyone given you a promise but he, she, or they did not fulfil it? Remember how it felt like? Well, whatever it is, it is something not good.
Committing to a particular something is like making the person you committed to expect of a result. But what happens if those expectations are not met? – Disappointment. This is more troublesome if it involves something very important since there will also be very big expectations which possibly could turn to a very humungous disappointment.
But what if you stick to your commitments? How would you think your partner will feel? – Total Satisfaction. It will make him or her feel good of the result and it would also give out the message that you really do care a lot about him or her for you to stick to your commitment.
Sticking To Commitments Makes You Feel Good About Yourself
Doing something good for somebody makes you feel good about yourself. You do not know how and you do not know why it just does. If you feel good after doing something for somebody, just imagine how you would feel if that somebody is the person that you love and you care for the most? The good feeling could be increased exponentially.
Sticking to commitments will also make you feel good in an indirect way. Remember the saying, “an eye for an eye?” Looking at it in a positive context, if you do something good for a person then that person will also do something good for you. In this case, since you stick to commitments in your love relationship, then you could also expect that your partner will do the same.
Feeling Good Makes The Romantic Relationship Good
Now that you and your partner stick to commitments in your love relationship, then it is expected that it will grow and mature. If you feel good being in the relationship and your partner feels the same would only mean that your intimate relationship will also be good.
But this does not necessarily mean that you will not encounter any difficulties in the future anymore. This will be very helpful though in minimising conflicts and relationship issues.
If you are having relationship issues with your partner, maybe it is time to give importance in sticking to commitments. Sometimes you just have to give a little more effort for your partner and your relationship together. Remember, being in a relationship is by itself already a commitment. It would not hurt to take one more step by sticking to your other commitments in your relationship.
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