Moving through the Pain of Divorce

Is your life in pain through a break up, divorce or just not coming to terms with being on your own? I am here to take you through the steps to get back to a place of peace and love through my program.

A recent survey carried out by one of the TV stations here in the UK revealed that 80% of the people questioned said they would leave a spouse who cheated on them. So if you have cheated, you regret your actions and you would prefer to work things out and stay in your marriage the odds are very much stacked against you.

Or are they?

The first thing you should do is miss regard what you read in the newspapers, you see on the TV and what your friends have to say. That’s because nobody really knows how your going to react until it happens to them. Divorce is a very big step and a lot more people than are prepared to admit it are prepared to swallow their pride and try to work things out when it comes to it. Of course if your spouse is absolutely set on that it’s over because of what you did and they flatly refuse to discuss it any further you have to accept your fate. 

But there are things you can do to salvage your marriage and avoid ending up in the divorce courts.

Firstly you must end your affair, stop all contact with the third party and give your spouse plenty of assurances and certainty that it’s all in the past and won’t happen again. Then you must give them time to get over their initial shock, anger, hurt and the whole tide of emotions that will knock them off balance for a while. How you act initially will have a big impact on your final outcome. You’ve done wrong so be prepared to roll with the punches whilst being sensitive and understanding towards what your spouse is going through. There will be times when they want to shout and scream at you. That’s perfectly normal. How would you feel and how would you be reacting if you were in their shoes?

Now here’s the most important fact of all. The majority of marriages that end in divorce after infidelity, are the ones where either the husband, the wife or both were not prepared to openly discuss all aspects of the affair in detail. So to give yourself the best chance of sorting things out and avoiding a divorce you’ve got to be open and honest.

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Christina Young (The Healing Heart Coach) is a passionate, loving coach who helps women through the pain of relationship challenges, divorce and life after divorce. Christina is an author of “A Woman’s Guide to Forgiving Infidelity” and “Love is a Rollercoaster” Christina is called on by the media for advice and has been on radio in the UK and USA and interviewed on TV. Having gone through her own personal relationship challenge she understands exactly how painful it can be. Christina knows how life can be when you come from a place of love and forgiveness. Christina is also helping people live a healthy life through the Thrive Experience.