Building Self-Esteem and Loving Yourself!

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Building Self-Esteem and Loving Yourself

There are some people who believe that loving yourself is a sin. They think it selfish, conceited, and even unpleasant. However, they are wrong about this notion. Self-love is different from narcissism and false pride.

Not loving yourself simply indicates you have no real sense of self-worth. It means you have no feeling of belongingness and acceptance. Additionally, your ability to love other people directly relates to have you love yourself.

The key to happiness is loving yourself unconditionally. You will never be satisfied in the thing that you do not until you are happy inside. So how do you build self-esteem? What are things you can do to start loving yourself?


Reflect and evaluate your attitude towards loving yourself. Ask questions like am I open to the fact of loving myself? Do I consider the act sinful or conceited and even arrogant? If I do, where does this outlook come from? It is always important to do some self-evaluation and reflection from time to time.

Pamper Yourself

Regularly, indulge yourself to a luxurious pampering. An occasional massage, sauna, aromatherapy, a manicure, reflexology, or even a long soak in a bath, helps a lot in recharging your batteries. This will not only make you feel more relaxed and soothed, but also reminds you of the fact that you only deserve what is very best. By doing so, you can conclude that you are indeed worthy of your own happiness and that loving yourself is essential before you love anybody else.

Affirm Yourself

Use affirmations like I deserve good in my life. I deserve to love and be loved in return. Accept the fact that you have to love yourself in order to share that feeling to other people. If you do so, you can easily love other people unconditionally with a sense of self-worth and happiness.

Give yourself some Time

Practicing TFM (time for me) is very important in building self-esteem. In any situation, spare enough time for yourself to relax and do some things that please you. This will send powerful messages to your subconscious mind that you are worthy of loving yourself and that the desire to pamper yourself is nothing but pure-indulgence that you deserve. Keep in mind that there is no other person who can make time for you the way you wanted. Although there may be some who can provide you with time, you are the one who knows what you want in the first place. So why rely on other people to give you ample time when you can do it yourself?

Love Yourself

Before you get to embark into a loving relationship, the first thing to consider is to love yourself first. Accept and love yourself as you are. Loving oneself does not mean loving yourself over another. It does not mean that you change who you are, and what your very identity is just to please another person.

Loving yourself simply means working on something to grow and if there are some things in you that need to be changed, you do things that will help you improve that something not to impress the other person but to better change yourself instead.

It is important that you have built a good sense of self-esteem inside, otherwise the relationship you are into could possible fail. Having a healthy relationship to grow and flourish means not only liking yourself but also loving the real you. Take time to evaluate and build your self-esteem.

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Christina Young (The Healing Heart Coach) is a passionate, loving coach who helps women through the pain of relationship challenges, divorce and life after divorce. Christina is an author of “A Woman’s Guide to Forgiving Infidelity” and “Love is a Rollercoaster” Christina is called on by the media for advice and has been on radio in the UK and USA and interviewed on TV. Having gone through her own personal relationship challenge she understands exactly how painful it can be. Christina knows how life can be when you come from a place of love and forgiveness. Christina is also helping people live a healthy life through the Thrive Experience.