How can Valuing Your Authenticity Enhance Every Aspect of Your Life?

How can Valuing Your Authenticity Enhance Every Aspect of Your Life?

Hey Little White Liars, I have a crazy thing to share with you that speaks so directly (and absurdly) to the LWL Movement. I had the great pleasure of talking with Tara Shannon, Ford Supermodel and women’s empowerment spokesperson for the fashion industry for 45 years. As we were talking about my natural hair growing in, Tara told me that the models who work the most are silver-haired!

“My girlfriend Gillian,” she said, “is silver-haired. She just finished Italian Vogue. She’s in everything because of her beautiful silver hair. I envy your silver hair, Caren, I’m not all white yet. When I went to see about turning silver it was an issue. They’re telling me, “You’re not silver enough to go silver.”

How amazing is this? Talk about society’s messages to women, age and beauty! We can’t win, can we? Well, yes, we can!

Tara Shannon joined me on my Little White Lie Live show to talk about this, about how valuing our authenticity enhances our lives, no matter our age or the judgment-filled messages we hear. You can watch the show here:

But first, a little more about Tara Shannon.

Go ahead and google her because I know you’ve seen her face – on the covers of Vogue, Harper’s Bazaar, Elle, Town & Country, and she’s appeared in campaigns such as Calvin Klein, Valentino, Chanel, Gucci, and Clairol. She’s also a guest expert on a wide range of talk shows such as Oprah, CBS News, Good Morning America, and her writings have appeared in publications like The New York Times, The Annenberg Space, Photography and More, as well as AGEIST with our LWL friend David Harry Stewart.

Tara brings such awesome perspective and wisdom, so let’s dive right into the question: How can valuing your authenticity enhance every aspect of your life?

Tara: “Well, I would say that it is one of the gifts of being older, we understand that there’s more to value than just what people think of us…We inherit these beliefs that aren’t even ours, they’re so externalized. That’s what’s so interesting about being older – the more we value what our likes are, our wants are, our needs are, then the more peace-filled we are, because we’re not reacting to other people’s truth as an attack on us.”

One of the platforms she works with as a coach to younger women is that “self-hatred is a case of mistaken identity.” Amen to that!

So what can we actually do to value our authenticity?

Tara loves the literal metaphor of feeling more comfortable in our skin. She advises us to do just that – develop a deeper awareness of what our interior world is. She adds, “In my work with a lot of traumatized people, one of the fastest ways out of shame is to know that your soul is untouched by the human experience, and it’s filled to the brim with enough.”

authenticityTara works with her clients on giving themselves permission to “focus on doing things that delight you”. To create play get in touch with what makes you happy. Not serving people, but moving and finding and having and experiencing. Take action, go outward, try things – play! Then she has them really look around them, putting themselves on the other side to observe what’s happening as well as how everybody is doing all these different things. In addition, her clients then write a list of these things, and they go through them together so they can see what the reality of people’s behavior is, and how they can reframe their own mindset not to be in reaction to those things.

Giving ourselves permission opens big doors, gives us freedom basically to feel and do anything we want (legally, that is).

Even “permission to hate yourself, because everyone does it! I hate myself for hating myself. Good. Right. You’ve got to meet it with permission and say, yep,” and let those emotions go, freely and without shame! As Tara says “Acceptance without judgment is enlightenment.”

This can be really empowering because how many of us believe we’re ‘not allowed to’ feel whatever we’re feeling, that we’ll be judged? Let’s give ourselves PERMISSION, LWLers! Here are Tara’s final words of wisdom for us: “We need to be heard. We need to be held. And we need to be listened to and to know that within ourselves, we are also wanted by ourselves. In addition, we are welcomed to ourselves. We are loved, and we are absolutely taken care of. That’s the valuing. That’s the authenticity.”

Tara Shannon is such an inspiration to me with all the things she’s involved in. I can’t wait to follow what’s next for her!

You can follow Tara on Facebook here: Tara Shannon
@TaraListens (Instagram and Twitter)

Have you checked out the premiere issue of Little White Lie Digital Magazine? You can read it here: bit.ly/LWLDigitalMagazine

As always, let’s keep this fascinating and empowering conversation going! Share your answers, questions, thoughts on Facebook and don’t forget to use the hashtag #LittleWhiteLie.

Thanks for joining the Little White Lie Movement!

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Susan Jacobs Reply

caren is a natural and a gem!!!

Nancy Ferrari Reply

I feel more comfortable in my skin as I get older!

Susan Jacobs Reply

To be honest that thought never occurred to me BUT I have to say now I am fearless in more ways than ever before!

Nancy Ferrari Reply

Self-hatred is mistaken identity .. love it!

Cat Williford Reply

Love being in my 50’s!! So much fun!

The Little White Lie Digital Network Reply

I found that I have stronger tribe and connections with Sister

Cat Williford Reply

Caren is a total natural on video!

Nancy Ferrari Reply

Oh wow … within meditation, the words “enough enough enough” came out of my mouth today!

Cat Williford Reply

LOVE me some permission!

Susan Jacobs Reply

OMG I love you Tara. Permission to let yourself meet and get to know you, that person who you are now.

Lynne Sagen Reply

I love having Permission! Changes everything

Nancy Ferrari Reply

Permission is everything … opens doors big time!

Susan Jacobs Reply

haha OH my YES point that finger back at you, ourselves YES!

Mary Jo Talarowski Duszak Reply

You can have everything with permission.

Cat Williford Reply

Walking a mile in other’s shoes…

Nancy Ferrari Reply

Permission to pendulum is what came to mind!

Bettyanne Green Reply

Permission not to feel 100% happy about ageing – gotta be honest!

Susan Jacobs Reply

I see so many women Caren in their early 50’s, so not our age at all my clients, who do not know who they are anymore and are lost too busy being busy so it’s fabulous to hear Tara say the P word which is what I do. Put yourself on your own TO DO list! ❤️

Susan Jacobs Reply

I see so many women Caren in their early 50’s, so not our age at all my clients, who do not know who they are anymore and are lost too busy being busy so it’s fabulous to hear Tara say the P word which is what I do. Put yourself on your own TO DO list!

Mary Jo Talarowski Duszak Reply

Permission frees us from comparing others to ourselves.

Cat Williford Reply

Earlier this week, after a week in Port Arthur, Texas mucking out my mom’s flooded home, with my retreat beginning Friday this week, I gave myself permission to make all preparations EASY and ask for help!

Susan Jacobs Reply

Good for you Tara for standing out in a world that sometimes is so superficial. The world needs more of you! Great show.

Cat Williford Reply

Awesome conversation, Tara and Caren!!

Mary Jo Talarowski Duszak Reply

Thank you Tara and Caren!

Chris Wolfeagle Reply

Thank you for the invite Mary Jo Talarowski Duszak

Stephanie Ebner Barlow Reply

Didn’t know and yes to aging

Stephanie Ebner Barlow Reply

Learn how to be your own best friend

Stephanie Ebner Barlow Reply

Love those turnarounds

Stephanie Ebner Barlow Reply

Life is in each moment.

Tara Reply

Thank you everyone! Thank you Caren. Thank you, thank you, thank you! Such an honor.

    Caren Glasser Reply

    It was a pleasure having you on! Look forward to welcoming you back.
    Caren

Susan Jacobs Reply

I see so many women Caren in their early 50’s, so not our age at all my clients, who do not know who they are anymore and are lost too busy being busy so it’s fabulous to hear Tara say the P word which is what I do. Put yourself on your own TO DO list! ❤️

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