Arguing Isn’t the Solution in Relationships!

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When Arguing Isn’t The Solution: Alternatives To Setting Things Straight In Your Relationship

Arguing Isn't the Solution in Relationships!Conflict and arguing are a normal phenomenon in every relationship. While having little problems in romance can be healthy, especially when they get easily resolved, there are times that conflicts can become very destructive and hurtful. These types of misunderstandings are predisposing factors to a failed relationship.

Do it yourself VS Mediator

Now you have a conflict that is, so far, the worst you have had since your relationship started, and it appears that the methods you’ve used to fix past blunders are not working. So what do you have to do to straighten things out in your relationship?

There are two paths you can choose from. The first path is to do it your way. In this path, it would only be the couple that will try to find solutions to the conflict. This is suitable to couples that have issues that are not too grave or haven’t reached a level where they could inflict physical harm on each other.

The second path involves setting things straight with the help of a mediator. This could be a professional whose line of work is to resolve conflicts like this, or it could be somebody who is a common friend. This method of straightening things out is for those couples that have problems that can be very serious and dangerous, or that could reach a physically threatening situation.

Choosing which path to take in setting things straight in your relationship actually depends on the issue you are facing. Assess the events well and, based on your judgment, make your decision.


There are certain factors that must be present during the resolution of conflict. One of these is communication. The importance of communication in a relationship can’t be denied. As a matter of fact, it is the catalyst for the growth and maturity of a relationship.

Aside from this, communication can also become the key towards the resolution of misunderstandings. While in the process of setting things straight, it is of utmost importance that there is good communication between the two parties.

You should remember, however, that communication is not all about talking it is also about listening. Both parties should give ample time for speaking, as well as listening.


Before setting things straight, you also need to ready yourself first. When you want to resolve a conflict, be sure that this is what you really want. How do you know if this is the case?

One of the indications is that you genuinely want to resolve the conflict and that you do not have the feeling of anger any more. The second indication is that you don’t have the feeling of hate anymore. And third is when you feel that something is wrong and you have the need to set things right.

These three indicators can help you tell whether you really are genuinely ready to set things straight in your relationship. Remember, while conflicts can get very tense, solving them does not necessitate a screaming match. Since you’re both adults, you can always seek solutions the calm way.

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Christina Young (The Healing Heart Coach) is a passionate, loving coach who helps women through the pain of relationship challenges, divorce and life after divorce. Christina is an author of “A Woman’s Guide to Forgiving Infidelity” and “Love is a Rollercoaster” Christina is called on by the media for advice and has been on radio in the UK and USA and interviewed on TV. Having gone through her own personal relationship challenge she understands exactly how painful it can be. Christina knows how life can be when you come from a place of love and forgiveness. Christina is also helping people live a healthy life through the Thrive Experience.