YOUR BELIEFS AND PRECONCEPTIONS…….!
How Do These Affect Your Relationship?
Being in a romantic relationship can be tough, especially if you and your partner do not hold the same beliefs and preconceptions about things (love, life, etc.). Although some people may disagree with this, it is undeniable that such differences can somehow affect your love relationship. The degrees may vary though. But sooner or later, they can pile up and become a bigger problem unless you and your loved one make an effort to resolve them.
Opposites Do Attract
The notion that opposites attract can be applied in the area of dating. It is not impossible for a man or a woman, who is in search of a romantic relationship, to find beauty in the contrast. As a matter of fact, people often regard the differences to be complementary characteristics that make the intimate relationship all the more exciting.
Of course, with this belief in mind, it follows that similar personalities repel. So a lot of people tend to steer clear of persons that strongly remind them of their own traits. As a result, they usually prefer to look for balancing attributes that would complement their intrinsic qualities.
However, the excitement of such complementary relationships has the tendency to go down the drain once the couple begins to fight a lot because of their differences. Most of the time, the disparity lies in their beliefs and preconceptions. And one way or another, one of them would try to persuade the other to change his or her views about any given subject matter. Consequently, the attempt would only bring about more differences of opinion as the significant other struggles to resist the transformation desired by his or her loved one.
Different cultures have distinct sets of beliefs about certain subject matters. The topic of ethnicity can therefore result in a number of disparities in preconceptions, which is by the way a very weighty relationship issue.
Take for instance a very conservative Asian woman and her liberated American boyfriend. Let’s say that they had been going out for more than a year. The guy wanted to have an intimate relationship with his girlfriend. He openly spoke to the woman about his intentions to take it to the next level, sexually speaking. However, since she had been brought up in the traditional Asian way, the woman refused to give in to her boyfriend’s desire. She tenaciously believed in the sanctity of marriage and wanted to save her virginity until that most important wedding day.
This example can actually end up in two different ways. Scenario 1: the guy got so frustrated with his girlfriend and decided to break up with her, saying that they’re beliefs were poles apart. Scenario 2: the guy settled on waiting for that big day. He believed that loving means accepting, and the cultural differences between him and his girlfriend shouldn’t be viewed in a negative light. Rather, the disparity somehow made them stronger as a couple.
To Talk Or Not To Talk
Some people consider talking things out before they escalate into enormous proportions. On the other hand, some zealously believe in silence and avoidance. So the decision to “talk or not to talk” largely depends on the couple’s individual beliefs and preconceptions. In an ideal world, however, talking is considered to be a good start to in order to get to the bottom of a relationship problem.
A couple’s differences in opinion about communication can greatly affect the them since issues would not be resolved that easily and that quickly. As a result, the problem becomes bigger as days pass by. The couple may pretend to act normally for the duration of the time being, but not for long. Sooner or later, one of them would reach his or her boiling point, and the dissimilarity in viewpoints can take its toll on the relationship.
Aside from using communication to resolve a particular issue, the amount of time a couple spends just talking about anything can also help strengthen the bond. If one holds the belief that more talk means more mistakes, then he or she is in for big surprise. Most of the time, talking builds up trust and understanding. If you just sit there and stare at your partner, you probably wont‘ achieve your goal of saving your relationship.
Knowing that differences in views can have an effect on you and your significant other, it would be better to learn how to accept such dissimilarities. Acceptance and patience are vital attributes to making a relationship work. So no matter how big or how small the disparity is, for as long as both parties are willing to work things out, then anything is possible.
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