When Work Gets In The Way: Problems That Challenge Relationships
No matter how much you do not want to think of it, the reality is that money is very important in to be able to live in this world. Money is needed to be able to provide yourself the basic needs of a person. You need money to buy food to nourish your body. You need money to get a place as shelter. You also need money to buy clothes. You also need money to give the person that you care for a better future. It is because of money why there are a lot of people who work almost 24 hours a day, 7 days a week.
Some people say that it is impossible to have time for your partner if you want to have a higher salary since work will be taking most of your time. Well, this should not be the case. It is possible to have a good relationship while working to give you and your partner a better future.
Manage Your Time
It may sound so insensitive and heartless but the truth of the matter is that being in a relationship is like having a business you need to invest. But instead of monetary investment, the most valuable thing you can give is time. Unfortunately, this idea also applies to work, investing time as well as your skills so that you will get paid. It is because of this commonality that they usually clash and causes problems.
There is a solution to this kind of dilemma though and that is time management. You can develop several schemes and plans so that you will be able to give enough time to both relationship and work. You should remember that there should be a balance when you manage time. Having more time for your work and less for the relationships is not good nor is having more time for your relationships and less for work.
With proper time management, you can satisfy the needs of both your relationships as well as your work.
Keep Your Promises
It is normal in a romantic relationship that partners make promises with each other. But sometimes there are just circumstances that won’t let you keep your promises and more often than not, these circumstances are work related. What happens when you do not keep your promises? Your partner gets disappointed. And constant disappoint will often end up in a bad relationship.
To avoid this kind of situation remember this rule: Do not make any promises you are NOT sure that you can keep. If you think that you can’t go out on a specific date with your partner, then do not promise you will be there.
Clear and Constant Communication
There will be times and circumstances in your work that you will not be able to keep your promises to your partner. There will also be a lot of disappointing times especially when there are unexpected circumstances from work. But these should not be reasons for you to have a bad relationship.
The solution to these kinds of situation is clear and constant communication. You need to give yourself and partner time to talk with each other. Tell your partner about your work more. Explain the mechanics of the job that you do. With these small conversations, you are giving your partner a glimpse of what you do. This will make him or her understand better why there are just situations wherein you really have to be at work.
Another focus of the conversation is to get some input from your partner.
Know how he or she feels about your work. Let him or her speak and you should listen well. If you hear some negativity, take this as positive criticisms and try to work on it.
Most of the time, at the end of the conversation, you will have better understanding of each other. Your partner will be more understanding of you and your work and you too will have a better insight of what your partner thinks and feels.
Communication is the key! Contact me if you need help with communication and check out my website. www.christinayoung.co.uk
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