MAKING YOUR LOVE RELATIONSHIP LAST!
What Is Important To You?
In this world of failed relationships and divorce, you can’t help but wonder, “can relationships still last in this time and age?” With 50% of all marriages ending up in divorce, it is not hard to think this way. And if marriages can fail what more so if it is just a romantic relationship outside the context of marriage?
As disappointing as it may seem, this is the reality. People have gone to a point where love relationships are taken as something that can be easily replaced. But do not lose your spirit. There is still hope for relationships to last given that you are willing to exert an effort to do so.
Be Aware of What You Want
The first step to realizing your dream of having a love relationship that would last is to be aware of what you really want and what is important to you. You can easily say that “I want my relationship to last.” This statement is very general and encapsulates a lot of different aspects of a relationship.
It would be best to focus on the details. How will you make it last? Why do you want to make it last? Is it that important to you? What are important to you that you would want you to make your relationship last? By answering these questions, you can formulate different detailed answers on making your romantic relationship last.
One technique in doing this is by writing all your answers on a piece of paper. This has two purposes: one is to constantly remind you of your goal and number two will be explained below.
Let Your Partner Be Aware Of What He or She Wants
It takes two to tango and it also takes two to make a love relationship work. You can’t make your relationship last if your partner does not want it to last. If you are the only one who wants this to happen, then whatever enormous effort you put into it, it will never work. So you have to be clear about this with your partner. You must know as early as possible if you have the same goal and if not, immediately get out before it is too late. But if you do have the same goal then it is time to work on making your relationship last.
Just like what you did, you have to let your partner answer the questions you have answered. He or she should also write it on a sheet of paper to also serve as a reminder of your goal. Once done, it is time to go to the next step.
Remember that the paper has two purposes? The second purpose of the paper is for comparing notes. This will let you both know what you think and what you want in your relationship. The good thing about this list is that it is in detail. You can group all the ideas that you have in common and you do the same with the ideas that are not. For the ideas that are common, you can discuss them and make a plan of action on how to accomplish them. With the ideas that are not common, you can discuss this and make compromises if need be. Then just like with the common ideas, make a plan of action on how to accomplish them.
Knowing each others ideas, knowing what is important, and sharing ways of attaining your goal will aid both of you in making your relationship last.
Implementation of Your Plans
It is not enough that you only discuss your goals and your plans. Once you have established your commitment to the relationship, it is time to work on it and make it a reality. It is true that this feat is not a walk in the park. You have to go through a lot of challenges and there will be times that you may want to seem to give up but do not lose hope.
Look at the papers you have written. Be reminded of what is important to you, of what is it that you want. Remember the plans you both have made on those pieces of paper. Remember your goal to make your love relationship last forever.
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