Yes, You Can Embrace Your Life Transitions
Isn’t it fascinating that we ALL have a singular commonality within our life transitions, beginning with our birth experience! Adverse to what we were told as a child, there is no stork dropping us into the laps of our parents. We also all experienced our first cry upon entry, letting our voices be heard (some louder than others)! We may not have a memory of that first cry. However, for some of us who have experienced giving birth, or observing a birth experience, or taking care of babies, it’s a fact that we all arrived with no manual and were completely dependent on our parents and/or caregivers.
It is a bond like no other. As babies, we innately know to cry when we’re hungry, need a diaper change, or need to be soothed.
Herein begins the transitions in life as we become less dependent when we learn to speak, how to walk, how to eat. All within a few months. The world is a new place filled with adventure, a place to explore and communicating with the world! What a glorious feeling it is to feel free. We don’t come into the world with a guidebook, however, by the grace of God, we evolve rapidly. Within the first 2 years and for some people, memories of early childhood are accessed, even though they may be vague.
On a personal note, I vividly remember the day my brother was born and I was only 2-1/2 years old. Now, there was a radical shift, as I was no longer the focal point in my parent’s eyes. I had to learn to be patient when my brother’s needs were attended to. Once again, I innately knew how to amuse myself by making friends in the neighborhood. I had the luxury of growing up in a small town in Canada where it was safe and there were no fences between homes.
I was free to be me and explore to my heart’s content, until the day came to start kindergarten. I was one of the younger students as I was only 4-1/2 years old, however, in today’s day, children are enrolled in pre-school and/or daycare at a very early age. These children experience transitions far earlier than I did and learn new boundaries within a structure outside of the home.
No right or wrong … just a different experience.
Life transitions become more frequent as we experience shifts in friendships, annual advancements to a new grade in school, possibly moving and enrolling in a new school and having to make new friends, all the while trying to fit in. Research has proven that we are basically socialized by the time we are 8 years old. We have been taught what’s acceptable, what’s not, what to say, what to wear, and so on.
Fast forward a few decades, we find ourselves at a pivotal point called “midlife”. This has always struck a chord of curiosity with me. How can we possibly know when we’re at midlife when we don’t know when our last day on this earth will be? Society does a great job of determining these mindsets. I appreciate that there are more books and resources which help us navigate through this radical shift.
Our biology does have a say in all this as the aging process actually begins at the time of birth. However, the aging process accelerates in our 30s and 40s, which is why 50 has been declared as way over the hill! Even with the statistics that people are living well into their 80s and 90s, retirement is still referred by some as going out to pasture. It’s no wonder that people feel worthless and struggle with a new normal.
This is when it is so important to develop an attitude of gratitude for all life’s blessings as we look back at the Act I chapters in our lives and embrace Act II in life.
We may find ourselves sad as we remember disappointments, unfortunate and traumatic experiences in life that left a negative imprint keeping us stuck, living in fear and worry endlessly. This is a good time to connect with a practitioner who can help you clear and heal these wounds. We all have the power of choice to shift from being a victim to be a victor! It is what you choose to do in life, no matter what age, that will connect you to your soul blueprint. I shared earlier that we all have a life purpose. We were socialized, and in the process, we may have lost that spirit of living our true and authentic life purpose and forgot how to trust ourselves.
Good news! We now have that opportunity at “midlife” to navigate, explore and discover the magic again. Our passions may have been set aside but now we can shift those desires into reality. Imagine painting, or playing the piano, or swimming again. Whatever it is, your soul remembers. Be adventurous, be bold, be daring, be curious, be playful, and sometimes, just BE. There is great power in following your heart’s desire and when we realize that life shifts and transitions are an opportunity to finally connect us to our life purpose, we experience life on our terms, unapologetically!
Cheers to health, happiness and vitality ~
Set a complimentary discovery session with Nancy Ferrari here:
Latest posts by Nancy Ferrari (see all)
- Embrace Your DIVA Type with Stylist Biz Coach Jean Price - May 25, 2017
- Ignite the Passion of Midlife with Barbara Waxman - May 22, 2017
- The Unmumsy Mum with Award Winning Blogger Sarah Turner - May 18, 2017